3 Negative Effects of Blocked Emotions
It is very important to mental health to be in touch with and connected to your feelings. Too many people are not successful in actually feeling what they feel. Why? Because they are too busy trying to escape or distract themselves from what they feel. Not all feelings are painful. But, feelings that are repressed, ignored, not felt or connected to, do become cumbersome, painful, and continue to grow in their negative perception and experience.
3 Negative Effects of Blocked Emotions
- Heightened Anxiety or Stress
- A Victim Mindset
- Belief that Nothing Can Change
Heightend Anxiety or Stress
When you aren’t aware of what you are feeling a natural result is to experience increased stress or anxiety. Often stress and anxiety rise when what is perceived often as the mere threat or hint of feeling something emerges. Being unskilled in coping with actually feeling what you feel means that you have to work very hard to escape, continue to block, and/or distract from your feelings. Feelings are often conflicting. When unfelt or unacknowledged feelings are in conflict somewhere inside of you, and not expressed, the result is often an agitated experience that is at best unpleasant and at worst actually terrifying to many. There is a disconnect between what you are thinking that is producing the feelings that you aren’t dealing with.
A Victim Mindset
Not being in touch with or connected to your feelings is a symptom of not being as aware as it will benefit you to be of what you are thinking. When you aren’t actually aware of what you are thinking you can end up perceiving these free-floating unattended inner-emotions as coming from others – as if something is being done to you. Abandoning your emotions and not feeling your feelings is central to experiencing interactions with people and situations in life as if one is a victim of either other people and/or situations.
Belief that Nothing Can Change
Continuing to experience what you perceive, at some level, inside, as a need to not feel your emotions – not deal with how you actually feel – which is often something invested in subconsciously – feeds the negative core belief that nothing can change. You may experience this lack of change in your life as being stuck. You may believe that you are stuck because of someone or something else in your life – outside of yourself. What keeps us most stuck is actually how and what we think which effects how we feel. So, the belief that nothing can change, contributes to the victim mindset and is actually a by-product of it. Avoiding your emotions – not actively getting and staying in touch with your feelings – leaves you out of touch with your thoughts and is a major reason why people end up experiencing a sense of being lost. Lost in life or lost to the Self inside.
If you are not in touch with and connected to your actual feelings and expressing them in relatively healthy ways you won’t be able to be whole. You won’t be able to achieve balance. It may mean that you are living more through your false self than your authentic self.
To live in and through your authentic self and find a healthy functional emotional balance you need to choose to feel what you feel secure in the knowledge that feelings aren’t logic and do not have to dictate beliefs and experience.
If you feel stuck in your life, blocked generally, or emotionally blocked, you will benefit from assessing the level of your connection to your feelings, or lack thereof. You will also benefit from learning more about the reality that what we think drives what we feel. What we think and feel often determines choices made or not made, actions taken or not taken.
The paradox of our emotions is that the more we don’t feel them, connect to them, and express them in effective and healthy ways, the more painful they become. The more painful they become the more likely people are to avoid them all the more. Blocked emotions increase suffering and negatively impact both physical and mental health.
© A.J. Mahari, January 4, 2010 – All rights reserved.
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